Warning: The Reality Of Living With An Alcoholic Spouse

glass slipper

Have you seen the Disney classic movie Cinderella? If you haven’t, it’s worth the watch.

My favorite scene was when the prince arrived in search of the woman who fit into the slipper. The ugly expressions on the faces of Cinderella’s sisters when they tried to cram their foot into the slipper were hilarious.

They were furious when the slipper fit on Cinderella’s foot. The story ends when Cinderella marries the prince and lives “happily ever after” in the castle.

Did you spend your younger years searching for prince charming and “happily ever after?”

Maybe you thought you found him, but years later that prince is now your alcoholic husband and you’re not living “happily ever after.” Your life is consumed with his behaviors and you’re at “wits end.”

You still might crave a Cinderella life, but it’s obvious a lot needs to change. Life isn’t quite like a make believe movie.

We live in real world and the reality is you can’t change your alcoholic, but you can focus on your own happiness. It requires new behaviors on your part.

What’s said in Alcoholics Anonymous can also be applied to you.

If you want something you’ve never had (true happiness)…Do something you’ve never done.

Come Out Of Isolation

Part of being human is to admit you have feelings of loneliness, sadness, hurt, anger, disappointment, grief or abandonment. It’s at those times when you need to ask for help.

Women are nurturers by nature. They love to take care of things and other people. When what they’re doing doesn’t work, they often feel it’s a sign of personal failure.

Often alcoholic spouses struggle in silence. It’s easy to pull away from friends and other people. To be alone and in pain can be used as a form of escape.

The more you cut yourself off from other people the deeper you spiral into own negative thoughts that can lead to a feeling of hopelessness.

The best thing you can do is to talk with others who understand and know what you’re going through.

It Takes Strength to Admit Weaknesses

Pride and ego prevents people from allowing others to know they hurt. Can you relate to that?

Maybe you want it to appear that your life is under control, and everything’s okay. Your husband’s alcoholic behavior has caused turmoil and chaos in your life. In reality you’re life isn’t okay and you have a lot of pain.

Until you open up and seek help, that pain is like an acid that builds up inside of you and slowly drips…drips…drips until it affects your physical, mental and emotional health, if it hasn’t already.

Talk to someone about your hurts, fears and pains as a step toward positive changes in your life.

You’re Not Alone In The Battle

You might be going through a hard time right now. There are people who understand and can be supportive such as a pastor, counselor or a member of Al-Anon. They’ll help you fight the battle in the journey towards happiness. Or, sign up for our email list and work with one of our Coaches here at Free My Addict.

The best resource available for help is other people. Let them see you for who you are…all your gifts and talents and all your hurts and sorrows.

You might not be married to prince charming or live in a castle like Cinderella, but your life can improve if you ask for help.

We have good news…

Here at FreeMyAddict.com we’re ready to roll out something special to do just that and the best part is, it’s FREE! Keep an eye out this Wednesday March 13, 2012 for our upcoming event.

In the mean time, let us know in the comments what you’ve done to keep yourself out of isolation.


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  1. tljsmiles

    “Until you open up and seek help, that pain is like an acid that builds up inside of you and slowly drips…drips…drips until it affects your physical, mental and emotional health”—WOW, what a strong statement.

    This statement just breathes life to me and that is why I am here, I need to finally open up and seek help, or I will be destroyed.

    • FreeMyAddict Coach

      So true! To hold things in is probably one of the most destructive actions one can take. Even though it may seem hard to open up it is the hope for a better life.

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