Top 3 Ways to Rid Your Frustration With an Alcoholic

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“I’m frustrated!”

How many times have you said that to cope with your alcoholic husband?

Probably a lot…and how do I know that?

You’re not alone.

Those are common words used by the spouses of alcoholics from our Free My Addict email list.

We can’t stop his behavior. But, we can give you a few tips to help deal with the frustration.

Talk About It

It’s not healthy to keep your frustration inside.

To have someone who understands your situation, such as a friend, family member, therapist or pastor, is important to help deal with how you feel.

When you talk to someone it won’t solve your problem. But it’ll help you manage your emotions.

It’s called catharsis… so what’s catharsis?

It means to cleanse your emotions by “relieving tension and anxiety as emotions and fear are brought to your consciousness.”

You’re probably not the only one who knows about his drinking, so maybe it’s time to “open up”… even if it’s just to “vent.”

Get Active

Start an exercise routine.

Not only will it get your mind off your husband, it releases endorphin’s which are hormones that make you feel better.

I had a friend who was always frustrated. He’d go into the woods to chop at trees. The physical activity made him feel better…and he had enough wood to feed his fireplace for two years.

What activity can you do to help cope? And maybe turn into something positive like my friend did.

Nobody Ever Cried Themselves to Death

Have you ever had a good cry and said, “I feel better?”

If not…maybe it’s time to try?

When you cry it increases dopamine, a chemical in the brain that helps you cope with pain…physically and emotionally.

It might help to find a place where you can be alone and think about things.

Then “let it all out,” and notice how much better you feel.

Many articles on this site talk about how “you can’t change him…you can only change yourself.”
Well…that’s true.

He may continue to drink…and you’ll be frustrated.

But if you use these tips…you’ll increase your ability to cope with your husband.

Or at least you might end up with some extra wood for the fireplace :)

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  1. Liz

    Go to Al-anon!!!

    • Tom

      Al-Anon is great! If offers excellent support from people who have been through the same thing and they enjoy helping others.
      And don’t forget the “meeting after the meeting!”

    • Rick

      How can I join an on line meeting?

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