Should You Start Charging Your Alcoholic Husband Rent?

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A friend comes to visit and overstays their welcome or you own an apartment and the tenant hasn’t paid rent.

At what point do you say “you gotta go?”

The same concept can be applied to your alcoholic husband.

He probably lives in your head “rent free” and what thanks do you get?

I’m sure none.

Instead you deal with worry, misery and frustration and always wonder what he’s up too.

You know what he’s doing. He drinks…hides alcohol and doesn’t tell you where he’s been…and you let him live rent free.

So why waste mental and emotional energy on him?

You Own Your Thoughts

Your husband only thinks about himself. Shouldn’t you do the same?

He’s selfish and self-centered and feels the whole world revolves around him. Where do you fit in?

You’re only on his mind when you confront him and he probably says something like “when are you gonna get off my back.”

Well, maybe it’s time to do what he asked…get off his back…and focus on you… and your own happiness.

The “Eviction Process”

You can’t change him…so why not change what you think about. Like a tenant who’s not paying rent…he’s “gotta go.”

Here are a few questions to help you get you started with the “Eviction Process.”

  • Is it time to start an exercise program?
  • What books do you want to read?
  • What are some of your hobbies?
  • What friends and relatives haven’t you spent much time with?
  • Do you deserve a spa treatment?
  • How about meeting new people?
  • Have you thought about an Al-Anon meeting?

Maybe when he sees you focus on yourself it’ll give him incentive to change.

Either way you’ll win.

Like a “vagrant” who camps on someone else’s property…he’s done that in your head.

Instead, wouldn’t it be nice to think about things that are positive and helpful to yourself?

Now that he’s not living free in your “apartment” you have a spare room.

What would it be like to fill that room with the things you enjoy?

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