How To Rid The Stress Of Living With An Alcoholic
My friend always complained because there weren’t enough hours in the day.
She had a full-time job, took care of the kids, got them to after-school activities, cooked meals and cleaned the house. Her days were pretty hectic.
On top of that she had an alcoholic husband who sat around the house and drank all day. He was no help.
At night she was frustrated, exhausted and didn’t sleep to good. Her mind was on all that needed to be done the next day.
I gave her some ideas on how a daily routine would make her life a little better. It worked out well for her.
Let me share them with you.
Your Priorities…and What Isn’t
Your alcoholic husband shouldn’t be a priority. He needs to learn responsibility. You don’t have to clean up the mess for him.
Your job, the kids and your home are probably the most important things in your daily life. With all of that going on, remember you need to take time out for yourself. You need it!
When my friend realized that her alcoholic husband wasn’t a priority in her life, she was more productive, had more time with the kids and slept better at night.
Small Daily Goals Help You Achieve Long-Term Goals
I’m sure you have long term goals. For example, they may include financial security, your own identity from you alcoholic husband or maybe even continuing your education.
Those are great goals, but today you might be over-whelmed and feel they’re not obtainable because you might think you’ll never have enough time.
Break your day into practicable “do-able” parts. Be realistic of what you can accomplish. If you set small daily goals and make them your priority, the long-term goals can become a reality because you’ll have more time on your hands.
Plan Your Work and Work Your Plan
You may have heard that phrase. My friend decided to apply it and wrote down what she needed to do each day. She broke her priorities into half-hour increments, and that included time alone.
Her daily plan wasn’t fancy and it served as a visual reminder of what needed to be done. It kept her on track.
When she realized that her alcoholic husband wasn’t part of her daily routine, she got a lot more done, the kids were happier and she had time to herself.
She didn’t moan and groan when her alarm clock went off in the morning because she couldn’t wait to get her day started.
Your alcoholic husband’s behaviors probably won’t change unless he gets sober. Until then, you can make changes in your life, just like my friend did, if you focus on what needs to be done today….just today…because tomorrow will take care of itself.
Wouldn’t it be nice to finally have something to be excited about that’ll give you a reason to get out of bed in the morning?
Let us know in the comments what your day would be like if your alcoholic husband wasn’t a priority.