How To Rid The Fear Of Living With An Alcoholic Spouse
The National Geographic Channel videotaped a heard of gazelle’s in a field. They had caught the attention of a pride of lions off to the side in the bushes. The female lions and cubs walked to one end of the field while the males went to the other.
The gazelle’s heard playful noises from the mothers and cubs. They were afraid and ran towards the male lions. Obviously, not all of them made it out of the field.
It’s okay to be afraid, but just like the gazelle’s, you need to know which direction the fear is taking you.
Understand Your Fear
If you live with an alcoholic you might fear the loss of his job, the effects of his behavior on the children, or his addiction may take his life.
Those are real fears because it’s a possibility they’ll happen.
When consumed with fear you have one of two choices, either you’ll avoid it or have the courage to face it.
If the gazelle’s would’ve had the courage to run towards their fears they would have had a better chance of survival.
Counter Fear with Courage
Courage is doing something in spite of your fear.
Who wouldn’t worry, or be concerned, if their security and personal well-being was threatened? That’s a rational fear.
Accept your fears as real. Let me give you an example. You’re concerned he may lose his job because of his drinking. What can you do to replace his income? When you’ve established an alternative plan your fear will be relieved.
It’s an example of why you need to have a plan for what could happen.
That takes real courage. What are your plans if he does lose his job, or your marriage doesn’t work out, or if you’ll have to plan a funeral?
Courageous people admit they’re afraid, but they rise to the occasion and take action in spite of their fear.
Remember the story of the gazelle’s. Face your fears.
What are some of your fears with an alcoholic husband? How will you handle them? Let us know in the comments.
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