How To Let Go: What Every Alcoholic’s Spouse Should Know
Does your alcoholic husband have you at your “wits end?”
Are you ready to try something different?
I’ve found some very significant things in the 12 step program that may help… especially Step 3.
I know your husband’s the one who should focus on this step, but quite frankly, it can be applied to anyone, even if they’re not an alcoholic..
“Made the decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understand him.”
It’s important to have a “power greater than ourselves” to help us get through things we can’t control.
Regardless of your belief systems, it’s okay to let the future of your alcoholic husband be determined by your Higher Power.
It’s Okay to Feel Powerless
There may have been times of brief sobriety, but soon it was back to the rollercoaster ride which involves chaos and drama.
Do you feel like you’ve wasted time and energy trying to get him sober?
You’ve probably talked to your husband about his alcoholism and suggested he get help. Many of your attempts may have been unsuccessful because you relied on his decision making.
Alcoholics often relapse. This is one of the primary reasons you need a Higher Power you can count on.
To admit powerlessness over his alcoholic behavior is hard to do, but it needs to be done.
A Miracle Can Happen
You’ve probably witnessed something happen and considered it a miracle. I’m sure when you think of your past there’ll be times when your Higher Power was involved in your life.
If you’ve admitted you can’t change him, why not trust your Higher Power and see if He can perform miracles in your husband’s life.
Finally, Let Go
Turning him over to God may give you a sense of relief. You’ve taken the problem (your alcoholic husband) off you, and given him to God.
Now that you have him where he belongs, what about you?
Why not do the same thing for the issues you feel are out of control or the circumstances you have no answers too.
You can get strength with Step 3 by going to al-anon meetings, and also strengthen your faith and by participate on a regular basis with people who believe the same as you.
If you’re overwhelmed and feel powerless, as they always say “Let Go and Let God.”
Let us know in the comments how your Higher Power has helped you in your situation.
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