How To Get Through Tough Times With Your Alcoholic

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A friend called the other day because she had another crisis in her life.

I told her, “regardless of your situation, you always get through it and you’re a better person because of it.”

“Your right,” she said. “I just need to have faith. I’m glad I could connect with you.”

Crisis is common when you deal with an alcoholic husband, and you’ve probably made it through all of them in the past.

You might be in a crisis right now. Don’t worry you’ll get through this one too….

Have Faith!

Faith is belief in something you can’t know; what’s great about it is you can make a positive out of any difficult situation.

Whenever you make it through hard times your maturity heightens and your faith deepens.

Over time you learn to have a reasonable assumption that it’ll be okay.

What you learn about yourself because of the trials caused by your alcoholic husband you’ll be able to put into practice.

Maybe you’ve tried something that didn’t work, or thought something was true only to find out it was totally different. You may have even used poor judgment.

Those mistakes weren’t fatal. You probably learned a lesson which improved your life, such as the importance to take ownership of the mistakes and not allow them to happen again. That’s maturity.

Use Your Experiences to Help Others

They’re many people who share your same struggles. If you’ve overcome a crisis or trial, why not share what you learned about yourself with others?

To share not only helps you get things off your mind but it also helps to lift you up in your spirit. Others will benefit as they learn about how faith got you through your crisis.

My friend came to me with her crisis; it gave me a good feeling to have the opportunity to encourage her. She was able to realize the need to have faith.

We Understand and Want To Help

We’ve noticed many people on our email list may not have someone to connect with when they deal with a crisis.

Family and friends aren’t always able to understand. Some simply don’t want other people to know what goes on in their home.

Support groups like al-anon or narc-anon might make you feel uncomfortable because it’s not easy to talk about your problem with strangers or those in your community.

Keep your eyes on our website for the launch of Free My Addict’s COMMUNITY CONNECT coming this Thursday, April 5, 2012. It’s a place that’ll give you an opportunity to connect with others around the world that are all facing the same struggles… living with an alcoholic.

When faith helps you through your crisis, it’s important to share that success with others who hurt. Has your faith gotten you through? Please share comments below about your success and what you’ve learned.


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  1. Kimberly

    This sounds like a great idea I can hardly wait until April 5. I can’t attend the al-anon meetings because they are scheduled at a time that my kids are home, which makes it difficult and I don’t think I would be comfortable any way because I would be afraid there would be someone there who knew me or my husband because he knows alot of people in the area because of his business.This would be a Godsend to me. Thank You !!!!!!

    • Tom

      Looking forward to having you “connected” with us and other’s who are going through the same thing as you.
      This is will be an opportunity to share your feelings and everything else that is going on and still maintain your anonymity. See ya there!!!

      • Barbara,In the Greater Baltimore Area there are about 85 meetings elekwy. We adhere to the guidelines given in the Al-Anon/Alateen Service Manual. Here, we have many dual members (Al-Anon, AA, OA, etc.) who energetically support and contribute to healthy group activity. However, our Group Statement (read before each meeting) states, in part, that members of other anonymous fellowships must remain anonymous and focus on the Al-Anon program and that ONLY CAL (Conference Approved Literature) can be used and/or distributed at an Al-Anon meeting and the Big Book is NOT CAL. Please study the Al-Anon/Alateen Service Manual. I think that all the evidence you need will be there.Larry D.Baltimore AIS

      • FreeMyAddict Team

        Thanks for the supportive comment.

  2. A. S. G.

    Most information regarding alcoholics relate to the low life individual that can’t hold a job etc… What about the functional alcholic that is perhaps a pro athlete or any person of influence. The community loves this person, they can do no wrong, but when they come home it is a nightmare for the spouse as this person is so high on them selves not to mention the booze…. Money isn’t the problem in leaving it’s the family unit that would suffer, so life goes on one day at a time. Just trying to figure out a way to live with out fear and in peace?

    • Tom

      Regardless of the income, social status, or influence of the alcoholic, it still takes it’s toll on family and loved ones.
      Your desire to live without fear and in peace is also common. Many people decide to confront their fears head on and begin to feel better about themselves, and their thinking and attitudes change…they have more self-esteem…and with that comes a little more peace.

  3. Amber

    I’m very excited about the Community Connect. I’ve been to Al-anon and love attending. Although, it’s hard for me to attend, due to my work schedule, and in the evenings I can’t attend because, I’m afraid that if something happened to one of my children, my alcoholic husband would be left responsible and I don’t want to take any chances. Therefore, this is a great opportunity. Really looking forward to it!

    • Tom

      Glad your excited about Community Connect. It’s an excellent opportunity to communicate with a Family Coach and other’s in the same situation as you are. Looking forward to seeing you there!

  4. Marina

    I too look forward the the Community Connect. I do go to Alanon meetings, but it is hard for me to speak up in front of a group. I usually just listen. I do learn alot for the members, but hopefully I. will be able to release some of my frustrations out.

    • Tom

      That’s great your looking forward to Community Connect. Many are like you and don’t want to speak in front of a group. This will allow you to let those frustrations out, and also connect with others who probably have those same frustrations.

      • Those with no experience often push AA/NA psimly because they do not know any better. They have had wonderful PR for the past 70+ years. (If only the program worked as well as their PR.)For politicians, it allows a person to be tough on crime’ while being compassionate. In reality it is because it is cheap and gives the illusion that something is being done.For members. it really doesn’t make sense unless you look at AA as a religion or a cult, then the lengths they go through for new members is just like all the rest. They need to have a growing membership to be seen as valid. Also, a good way to silence your own nagging doubts is to convince someone else that these things are true. It’s part of the program to proselytize, to carry the message .

      • FreeMyAddict Team

        12 step groups work for many people. There are many paths to wellness. I’m just pleased when people find theirs.

    • Erik

      Do not worry about him. If he chooses alcohol over you, he has made his choice. He wants to be a drunk. I say, if he is willing to talk about recovery and not do it, he is all talk and no action.I’d refer him to a 12-step program or dump him.The lack of your courage to leave the alcoholic may stem from your falling on love with the sober, and not wanting to admit, that such a nice (sober) guy can act so hateful, when he drinks alcohol. Humans tend to see only what they please, the good in people, as in this case. If you cannot abandon him, perhaps you have a problem with abandonment. If you told him you will leave, and he does not try to control his problem, you are most likely empowering him, and that will allow him to feel more at-ease, in drinking more,and more often. I used to attract alcoholic as friends.I agree with Maureen. AA or a medical professional is his only help, for YOU to live a normal life with him in YOUR life. I agree with Maureen again ! You are the only person who can help you. Your sober B/F needs to hear this from you. Heis the ONLY person who can help him. I have known quite a few alcoholics in my days. Alcoholics recovery is from day to day, every day, for the rest of his or her life.I suggest that you have HIM look at Al Anon in the phone book. and leave him for GOOD. If he dries-up,he dries-up. Otherwise, he stays a drunk. Only he can help himself. Your job is done.You are re-opening your own wound, that needs to heal. Every time you take him back, the wound gets alittle bit deeper. Eventually HIS alcoholism can kill YOU, so Look out for yourself !

      • FreeMyAddict Team

        You’ve given a lot to consider. Thanks for your opinions.

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