Faith and Your Alcoholic


Have you ever prayed and wondered if God even heard what you just prayed about?

When things just seem to go from bad to worse, where is God?

The dynamics that happen every day with your alcoholic may push your faith to the extremes.

You may even have given up on your faith altogether.

Let’s look at how faith can help you with your alcoholic.

Where’s God in all of this?

I think many hold onto a view that God is good and therefore only good is supposed to happen.

Unfortunately the goodness of God doesn’t preclude bad things happening in our life.

Events in your life and mine are the result of choices made by people.

If we make a poor choice the consequence can be very horrible.

When you’re in a relationship with someone who makes poor judgments the choices can have significant consequences.

One of the things I learned early in my personal faith journey is that God doesn’t make our choices for us.

He’s willing to be there through the consequences, to give strength and guidance, if we ask.

Bad things keep happening

Let’s be perfectly honest, if your alcoholic keeps making the same decisions to use in spite of what happens around him, there’s nothing even God can do to keep bad things from happening.

‘Bad’ things are the natural consequences of poor choices.

It would be rather odd if poor choices actually resulted in positive outcomes.

When too much is spent on booze, the rent may not get paid.

When your alcoholic is drunk and in a rage, the nicer things in life may become the next thing thrown across the room.

It’s not that your alcoholic is ‘bad’, it the choices made.

They’re the result of an illness, not something to blame your alcoholic for personally.

I have know people to be angry at God because they believe He should step in and stop what happens.

It’s not that God can’t, it’s that He won’t.

Just in the same way as when your alcoholic prays for the hangover to be gone, it isn’t.

The natural consequence of a poor choice. Indeed, maybe that IS His answer.

What difference does it make?

If God doesn’t step in and take away the consequences presented by your alcoholic then what’s the point?

Well, I find it quite important to realize God can be there through good times and bad times.

He cares about the emotional pain, the struggle and all that concerns you and me.

When there seems to be no one who understands, He does.

I know personal faith isn’t shared by all of the readers of FreeMyAddict, but I think it’s important to know the role faith plays in every day life as you live with your alcoholic.

My faith journey started when I was 5 years old. It’s taken many turns up and down but I know life is better because of personal faith.

Struggles? Oh yes, they still happen.

Dissappointments? Yes, those, too.

Discouragement? Yes, at times.

Hope? Always.

Let me know how faith has been part of the journey with your alcoholic. Share in the comment section below.


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  1. kat

    I believe if your not in trials then your not growing in the Lord , I have seen people without God and their life is worse in trying to get it corrected, I would hate to walk threw this life without God and his power, God’s word let my husband s convictions come out , lets him know when he has gone to far, lets me know when i need to speak and when not too, and say told you so see
    If we want a better life with our anybody we need to read the faith and stay in it to guide us threw knowing what it is we are exactly supposed to be doing for our other half or anyone for that fact , Yes I will walk in the light this is for sure and i don’t care what anyone thinks love you all

    • FreeMyAddict Team

      Thanks for sharing how faith works for you.

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  2. Hershla

    God is first in my life now! My church has provided many activities that I can join in and I am making new friends. I go to Pilates 2 times a week there for my physical and mental health. I can get out and put the focus on ME and hear what God wants me to do and what he doesn’t want me to do. I recently went to a Church pool party that was also a pot luck meal. Yes I went alone but at home you are alone anyway unless you want to listen to the gibberish of your alcoholic which is so negative. As for me and my side of the couch WE WILL SERVE THE LORD now and not the Alcoholic!!!

    • FreeMyAddict Team

      It’s amazing the support you get from your faith and people who share it.

    • Kat

      It s amazing how they cling to their side of the couch , almost like they pull themselves into their own little word, but if you slide next to them and begin to share something of interest with them, they begin to come around and just maybe you can slide a few verses in there with them ,kindness is the key but it can be so hard when their so sarcastic, but if you treat them like a sick or ill friend, it will happen for you better

      • FreeMyAddict Team

        Thanks Kat for your inspiration and support for Hershla.

  3. robin

    I happen to know God hears me. when things do go terribly wrong I am the reason ,Me. I keep me in this relationship. regardless of his wrong choices mine are between me and God. I know but often forget that I only need to fear God. I never walk, talk, eat or sleep alone. Me and God are the majority in my life.I am a gift to a broken sick man who is killing himself.He can decide to turn it around or not I decided to love him either way. the wrong he does is never okay. But me doing wrong because of his is not any better. My faith is alive and well and when there are only one set of footprints in the sand Jesus is hefting me again…If loving an alcoholic could be done by non believers you would be out of a job. To look beyond the affliction takes determination because it is always in your face barking like a mother flubber…nipping at your heels. the only peace of mind you get with an alcoholic is by grace given to you as a gift. it is a lie to consider trying to be in a relationship with an alcoholic and not include God the couple will not survive can not survive one of them at the very least needs God. both even better. If you hold in your mind that alcoholism is a form of oppression or possession then you see this more clearly. holding on to un-forgiveness is an open door for such as this. Any way its what you don’t know that will keep you miserable all the time. when I recognize a lie I refuse to go along with it and resist. That’s how I can rest in my faith .Nothing can I do alone. Do everything you do for the glory of God. Even if it is loving an alcoholic. thank you

    • FreeMyAddict Team

      Thanks for sharing. Personal faith makes a huge difference.

  4. God always hears. and always loves. none of us are ever alone. and if we talk, the universe answers, as long as we’re open to listening. i keep faith in people as well, the best in them…even at their worst.

    • FreeMyAddict Team

      Well stated.

  5. KayTee

    The funny thing for me is, I found my Faith through my alcoholic husband. How someone can draw me closer and yet make me question God every single day is a mystery. This article is so encouraging to me. It is nice to know that at least SOMEONE understands.

    • FreeMyAddict Team

      There are many ways to find faith, yours is quite ironic.

  6. I am not sure about faith – I have very little but I do know you are right about choices. The alcoholic makes bad choices all the time. We used to say that when our son saw the red light he kept on going.

    • FreeMyAddict Team

      Amazing how alcohol takes over judgment and decisions follow more of a para-logical reasoning. Let me give an example- I don’t have enough for rent. I guess I’ll get drunk. While sobering up, I’m going to get evicted because I have no rent money.
      This kind of thinking is rampant among alcoholics.
      Faith isn’t something you actually measure but when you think you have lots you probably will be tested to find out you need more. When you think you have none you find strength beyond yourself…faith.
      Thanks for your comment.

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