Does He Promise to Quit When He’s Lit?

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“Yea… I’ll quit some day.”

How many times have you heard that from your husband?

Alcoholics are big talkers when there’s “liquid courage” in their system.

I don’t know about you, but to me…

talk is cheap.

It’s a Start

The fact he say’s he’ll “quit some day,” may encourage you. At least he recognizes a problem.

Alcoholics have good intentions, but to follow through…that’s a different story.

Maybe it’s time for action. And that’s where you come into play.

But first, let’s take a look at him.

It’ll help you understand some of his reservations about sobriety.

What’s He Afraid Of?

I used these “excuses” ten years ago when I struggled with sobriety.

  • I won’t have any anymore fun
  • My buddies won’t want me around
  • I’ll have to be responsible
  • If I get help I’ll have to talk to people about my problems

They’re “lame excuses” but typical from an alcoholic. He’ll rationalize and justify his reasons to drink…and why he doesn’t want to get sober.

He blames other people or situations and he might even blame you.

In reality, he has no one to blame but himself. But he’ll continue to drink and make “idle promises” just to get you off his back.

Lots of “YETS”

He hasn’t lost his job…yet…or suffered any health problems…yet…or you haven’t left him…yet.

I’m sure you can think of more that haven’t become a reality…yet!

It’s Time For You to Take Action

Since long speeches to confront him don’t work, have you tried a simple, firm direct approach?

Give this a try.

The next time he promises to quit tell him the time is “Now…crap or get off the pot!

You may want to bring up some of the yets.

That’s pretty direct. Isn’t it?

It may be a good idea to give him some brochures and various options where he can get help. It wouldn’t hurt.

Tell him “the time is now…not someday…let’s make a phone call…now.”

You’re Tired of Broken Promises…

…broken promises lead to broken trust.

Remember…talk is cheap. Actions speak louder than words.

Maybe he needs to hear that from you?

Or, hasn’t it gotten bad enough… yet?


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