A Simple Exercise That’ll Help You Live With an Alcoholic

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Do you talk to yourself?

I do…and when someone catches me I’ll joke around and say, “I like to listen to someone who knows what they’re talking about.”

Think about it.

What would your life be like if you listened to yourself more often?

Do you believe the negative things your alcoholic husband says about you?

Does he treat you like a doormat and walk all over you? Or tell you you’re a disappointment.

Take a moment to think about the things he says that aren’t true…but you have begun to believe.

Don’t Let Him Mess with Your Head

You know the truth. You have gifts, talents, beliefs, values, intelligence and can make rational decisions.

Don’t let him tell you otherwise and lower your self-esteem.

What if you listened to yourself instead of him?

More importantly listen to your internal voice.

You don’t need to take to heart what he says because he you know it isn’t true.

If he’s concerned you’re not capable of making good choices.

Don’t believe it.

Never doubt your capabilities. Speak the truth about yourself.

A Simple “Self Talk” Exercise

Ask yourself these three questions…

  • What would change look like?
  • What do I have to do to make my life better?
  • What would I do if it happened?

I’m sure there was dialogue going on in your head as you thought about the answers. That was your internal voice.

You probably answered these questions based on truth about yourself.

Take charge of that dialogue. Focus on the positive things you can do to make your life better.

You’ll feel better about yourself. His comments about you won’t matter because they aren’t the truth.

No matter what he tells you, it’s just his opinion.

And opinions are like “rear ends”…everyone has one.

You know the truth about yourself.

Listen to someone who knows what she’s talking about…you!

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