3 Ways to Deal with Manipulation and Substance Abuse In The Family

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“I don’t care if I lie, as long as I get what I want.”

That’s the attitude of a person who manipulates.

They know exactly what to say and which “buttons” to push.

For instance… “If you loved me, you’d do it!”.

Guess What? That’s not love.

That’s slavery!

You’re being controlled by a selfish and self-centered person.

The manipulator in your life tries to keep you from making choices for yourself.

3 simple strategies to stop the slavery

1. Stand up for yourself, say “NO More”

  • Say, “I know you’re trying to manipulate me. You’ve been doing it for a long time and I’m not going to fall for it anymore.” The manipulater may see for the first time that their tactics won’t work anymore.
  • Learn to say “no”. Stand up for your feelings, beliefs and values. Don’t back down.

2. Let go of the guilt

  • To feel guilty is a choice. To not feel guilty is also a choice. You have the freedom to decide.
  • Let the manipulator in your life know that guilt trips won’t work. And don’t worry, You’re not responsible for their anger.

3. Put boundaries into place

  • Boundaries are healthy. Protect the things you value.
  • Let the manipulator know what you will and won’t do. Stand firm and don’t back down. Especially if there’s substance abuse in the family.

We both know you can’t change someone else. How you feel about yourself – your self-esteem and self-confidence – is what matters.

It’s time to stand up and say “No More”, let go of the guilt, and set some healthy boundaries.

Don’t be a slave to manipulation. You deserve more out of life.

Say, “You know what? I’m done. If you loved me, you’d do it yourself”

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